How you might feel when pregnant again
Fortunately, the odds are overwhelmingly in favor of you getting a healthy baby next time round. Around 85% of women who've had one miscarriage will go on to have a successful pregnancy next time. Around 75% of women who've had 2 or 3 miscarriages will go on to have a successful pregnancy.
Understandably, you might not be as happy and excited with your next pregnancy as you may still be feeling broken-hearted about the miscarriage or concerned about losing this one as well. There are several things you can do to make things easier:
- Ask that your pregnancy be closely monitored by your pregnancy care provider.
- Ask that the baby shower and other preparations be done after the baby's safe arrival.
- Try not to get upset or annoyed if people are in your ear with advice and suggestions for the new pregnancy. You could politely explain that you are following the advice of your provider. Or, you could quote miscarriage statistics and facts, such as the fact that the vast majority of miscarriages are not caused by something the mother did or didn’t do, and can’t be prevented.
- Remind yourself that a positive pregnancy test means you can be positive about having a baby.
- Remember this experience is different because every pregnancy is different, and no two babies are the same.
- Once the heartbeat shows on an ultrasound, the chance of miscarriage is believed to be just 10%. Once your doctor can hear the heartbeat with a Doppler, usually at around 11 to 12 weeks, the chances of miscarriage reduce to around 5%.
When to see a specialist
- Have had two or more miscarriages
- Are over age 35
- Have an illness such as diabetes that may affect your pregnancy
- Have or had fertility problems
The information of this article has been reviewed by nursing experts of the Association of Women’s Health, Obstetric, & Neonatal Nurses (AWHONN). The content should not substitute medical advice from your personal healthcare provider. Please consult your healthcare provider for recommendations/diagnosis or treatment. For more advice from AWHONN nurses, visit Healthy Mom&Baby at health4mom.org.