What if I don’t feel like it?
Another effective strategy is to be imaginative and adapt your sexual repertoire so that neither of you will feel you have to totally compromise for the sake of the other. Pregnancy is when a lot of couples experiment with sexual alternatives and find that oral sex, masturbation, and fantasy can be as equally satisfying as penetrative sex.
Sex in the first trimester
If conceiving has been difficult for you, if you've had any bleeding or if you have threatened to miscarry, you will understandably be hesitant to do anything which could potentially lead to problems.
Sex in the second trimester
During the second trimester, there is also a settling down of hormone levels and you and your partner will have had some time to get accustomed to the fact that you are pregnant. You'll probably find you have more energy and feel less nauseated than you did when you were first pregnant. All these factors can contribute towards a renewed interest in sex and its different forms.
Sex in the third trimester
But pregnancy can also be a time of great beauty and sensuality, especially for partners who come to view their pregnant partner as almost irresistible.
Many partners find the darkened nipples, full, rounded belly, and bigger hips very sexy and alluring. They are turned on by their partner's almost overt display of fertility and this can appeal to a partner's biological senses. Others see their pregnant partner in a more motherly, nurturing way. They feel that having sex would somehow be violating this almost pure sense of her.
Many pregnant women find their libido diminishes as they near their due date. They can be so preoccupied about preparing for the baby and ensuring they get enough rest and sleep that they simply are not interested in having sex. It is important for partners to recognize this disinterest as being normal and not interpret it as a rejection. After all, it is sex that a woman isn’t keen on, not their partner as a person.
Your increased arousal
Why sex feels different pregnant
Some women worry that when losing control during an orgasm, they are not fully focused on the baby. They become concerned that this will harm the baby. Try not to worry; this will not happen. Good, satisfying sex during pregnancy will help your body prepare for labor and childbirth. Consider it an excellent form of prenatal exercise. It will also assist your muscles to work strongly and effectively—it’s giving your pelvic floor a first class work out.
Increased vaginal secretions
Sexual positions while pregnant
- Both of you lying on your sides, with your partner behind you. This is commonly known as spooning. This position may be more comfortable if you feel your cervix is lying low in your vagina and you want to avoid deep penetration because it is uncomfortable.
- You sitting on top of your partner. You’ll be able to control the depth of penetration and the speed of movements. Some women worry that their weight will cause their partner some sort of rupture. This is highly unlikely.
- Your partner on top of you. But not so that all of their weight is pushing down on your tummy. Get your partner to support most of their weight on their hands or forearms. Then they'll be getting a workout as well.
- Lying with your bottom on the edge of the bed, knees bent, with your feet resting on either side of your bottom. Yes, you'll wish you kept up the yoga for this one! Your partner does their thing by kneeling or standing in front of you.
The information of this article has been reviewed by nursing experts of the Association of Women’s Health, Obstetric, & Neonatal Nurses (AWHONN). The content should not substitute medical advice from your personal healthcare provider. Please consult your healthcare provider for recommendations/diagnosis or treatment. For more advice from AWHONN nurses, visit Healthy Mom&Baby at health4mom.org.